Our lives are so closely connected with the lives of our loved ones. When one member of a family is suffering, most times, everyone is suffering.
When they see the savage effects of alcoholism and drug addiction on the addict’s emotions, livelihood, and health, family members want to step in and help. The thought is of the highest intentions, but it can result in codependency and enabling – allowing or even assisting the abuser to continue their unhealthy life choices.
Her House offers a specialized family therapy program which supports the families of our clients through their own personal journal of addiction recovery.
Looking at the real issues
The causes of drug addiction and alcoholism are heavily debated. Some believe it’s partly genetic, others believe it’s more circumstantial, and others link it to psychological causes. Our family therapy isn’t about working out where to lay blame, it’s about looking at the events that led up to the individual’s addiction and what’s allowing it to continue.
Many users are in denial about the existence or extent of their drug and alcohol problem. The user themselves may not see it without help. Education about addiction is the key to overcoming it. Merito educates our clients about the disastrous effects of long-term drug use.
If their loved ones aren’t informed either, ignorance can be dangerous. In particular, over-the-counter, prescription drugs, and alcohol are so readily available it can be assumed that they’re not as bad as heroin or cocaine. We endeavor to teach everyone who takes part in our family therapy to understand the psychology of what their family member is experiencing. Family support and understanding can make all the difference in a patient’s recovery.
Enabling or codependent behavior is a pattern many families find themselves slipping into when one family member is an addict. It’s understandable, they are just trying to help. Enabling behavior can include giving someone money, covering up their habit, justifying their behavior to others or even committing crimes or lying to authorities for the addict.
Merito family therapy programs encourage every member of the family to engage in talk therapy together, apply behavioral retraining to avoid enabling behavior for the patient’s, and the family’s, wellbeing to improve.
How support can continue
The period right after discharge from a treatment is a crucial one for long-term recovery. Family members need to know what’s expected of them, and what they should avoid. It’s easy to fall back into old behavior patterns, which hurts the chances for recovery.
Ultimately, the codependent relationship must change, and our therapy can guide family members through this change so they’re constantly informed and feel in control.
Is our family therapy right for you?
Support from the patient’s family is the most important asset for recovering addicts.
Our family therapy is ideal for:
- Friends and colleagues
- Guardians and influential figures
To fully support your family member as they fight their addiction, it’s a real benefit to engage with family therapy and learn about their addiction, whether there have been previous codependency issues or not. Our therapy sessions are conducted in a safe and welcoming environment, a forum for anyone to discuss the impact addiction has had on their life.